My Boobs, the lack thereof, or aka My Pancakes
Tuesday, October 30, 2007 Posted In Momma Mia Edit This 9 Comments »
So pre-baby, I had nice LARGE boobs. I'm talking D's here people. Large and in the way. Large so that I couldn't wear nice pretty bras---only those large beige things with 3 hooks and extra wide shoulder straps. I lusted after pretty bras with dainty little hooks and straps. Something not grandma-ish.
Somewhere along the line I lost some weight, some boob-age went with it and Vicki's had some sexy bras that I could wear. I'm talking see-through, one hook, lacy, and THIN straps.
Then I got preggers and oh my GAWD, my boobs were massive, blue vein-y, things. I was relegated to nursing bras which surprisingly my husband thought was sexy. I shudder at the thought.
I was all aglow with the thought of nice boobs after nursing. You know, perfect and round with perfect little nips.
I nursed and my kids drank the life force of my boobs out of me. They were gone.
I can now wear pretty little bras, one hook, thin straps. But,I have nothing to put in them. I need support now people. I have pancakes. Literally. I could stand to the side, bra-less, and I would look flat because I have pancakes. Take a pancake, slap a nip on it and hang it from your chest. That's what I got. Not sexy. But, they were working girls and they saved my family some moo-lah because wow, formula is not cheap.
This is what happened this morning:
"Here you go, here's a bra," as he proudly dangles blue see-through lace from his fingertips. This was after I spent 10 minutes this morning looking for a clean bra to wear.
"Um, have you seen my boobs lately? I can't wear those anymore."
He looks at me. I put it on. And we laugh. Poor little Rosy and Lucy are just hanging in all that blue lace.
Edited to Add:
Knowing that you are wearing something sexy that no one else can see is power. It's what makes a woman feel sexy. Am I right in thinking this? I like to wear a nice bra even though no one else will see it that day or in the hopes that my husband will. And even if by the end of the day, the bra comes off and HH and I just go straight to sleep, because OMG we have tots and sleep is important, at least I got up in the morning with the thought of HH and seeing me in something I deem sexy. If I feel sexy, I'm more likely to act sexy and want to have sex. Whether I am wearing a big beige bra, a tiny mousketeer thing, or red lace, it's all about how I feel in it. It's a woman thing.
Somewhere along the line I lost some weight, some boob-age went with it and Vicki's had some sexy bras that I could wear. I'm talking see-through, one hook, lacy, and THIN straps.
Then I got preggers and oh my GAWD, my boobs were massive, blue vein-y, things. I was relegated to nursing bras which surprisingly my husband thought was sexy. I shudder at the thought.
I was all aglow with the thought of nice boobs after nursing. You know, perfect and round with perfect little nips.
I nursed and my kids drank the life force of my boobs out of me. They were gone.
I can now wear pretty little bras, one hook, thin straps. But,I have nothing to put in them. I need support now people. I have pancakes. Literally. I could stand to the side, bra-less, and I would look flat because I have pancakes. Take a pancake, slap a nip on it and hang it from your chest. That's what I got. Not sexy. But, they were working girls and they saved my family some moo-lah because wow, formula is not cheap.
This is what happened this morning:
"Here you go, here's a bra," as he proudly dangles blue see-through lace from his fingertips. This was after I spent 10 minutes this morning looking for a clean bra to wear.
"Um, have you seen my boobs lately? I can't wear those anymore."
He looks at me. I put it on. And we laugh. Poor little Rosy and Lucy are just hanging in all that blue lace.
Edited to Add:
Knowing that you are wearing something sexy that no one else can see is power. It's what makes a woman feel sexy. Am I right in thinking this? I like to wear a nice bra even though no one else will see it that day or in the hopes that my husband will. And even if by the end of the day, the bra comes off and HH and I just go straight to sleep, because OMG we have tots and sleep is important, at least I got up in the morning with the thought of HH and seeing me in something I deem sexy. If I feel sexy, I'm more likely to act sexy and want to have sex. Whether I am wearing a big beige bra, a tiny mousketeer thing, or red lace, it's all about how I feel in it. It's a woman thing.
9 comments:
That is not F!@#ING fair! I feel your pain. I had tiny boobs before, and I have tiny, FLAT boobs now. Sometimes I fantasize about getting pregnant again, just to have normal-looking boobs. It's enough to make one drive slowly past the plastic surgeon's office...
Wow....what happened to the thought of your husband loving your body and the heck with the world, but then again there is that factor that a woman must feel sexy. What if I were to say that I don't think that my P*nis was big enough and got sad everytime I looked at it. Now my wife would say, I think that it is plenty big and therefor I should move on from there. She would then follow up by saying if I think that it is big enough then that is all that matters, who are you trying to impress anyway; better only be me. Don't get me wrong I want my wife to feel sexy, but I think that that has a lot to do with me and my part. I try and let my wife know that she is sexy all of the time, but maybe she takes it as male hormones. I don't tend to believe that because I truly feel that there is no one on the face of the planet that is sexier than my wife. I would choose to have good s.. with my wife over anyone in this world and yes includes super models, porn stars, actresses, and etc. I think that there truly are some men that think that there wives are sexy no matter what. I'm a boob guy and I still love the so called "Pancakes" that my wife has now. I'd take those over plastic surgery any day. I hope that some will wise up and notice that the true husbands of the world do love there wives bodies in every shape and form. If you aren't feeling sexy then leave that to us to try and fix. There are some women that work off of that. This message isn't intended to upset anyone, but rather to say that this is a double standard. If a man goes out there and tries to fix his p...s then women would wonder who and why are we trying to impress someone else even if we declared that it was to make us feel good. I know that no other man will get to read this, but I hope that some of the readers husbands get to and hopefully they will see it from my side if not then please post your opinion so that I will have a better understanding. How many times must a man tell his wife that he loves her, tells her he thinks that she is sexy, and show her by not being able to keep his hands off of her in order for her to feel sexy??? That is the question of the day. When will there be satisfaction or shall I step out of the way because I'm waisting my breath and let you find your sexy self on your own. I'm sorry if I took this too seriously, but I feel differently about this. It struck a nerve in me and I felt I must say something. Here is to the boobs that I have "cheers to you for I've loved you through thick and thin and always will!!!" I hope that one day you will be satisfied. This whole thing would be different if we were talking about losing some weight rather than private intimate parts of the anatomy.
The Husband
I was at a girls' night out recently where several post pregnant women were discussing getting boob jobs as soon as they stopped nursing. Not only did they not bother to include me in this conversation, they didn't even bother to look my direction. I guess I must give off a bad vibe when it comes to this but ... would any of you get a boob job just because you want your pregnancy boobs back? Am I totally in the dark on this one. I don't love that my boobs are tiny now but I wouldn't pay a bunch of money to get those boobs back. Sorry for the rant ... I guess it bothered me more than I realized : )
It's a tough debate because sexuality is all very personal.
Anonymous, of course a woman's insecurity may play a large part in why she constantly strives to feel sexier. But for some, sexuality is a bit narcisistic. A woman might actually be more turned on by her own body when it looks a certain way. It sounds like Dawn's hubby, and mine as well, both support us a lot. My husband is constantly telling me how sexy I am and following through. But when I had nice, full breasts, I was more turned on by my body. I like how I looked. It wasn't really about my husband at all. Does that make sense? But I think it's absolutely wonderful that you support your wife and think she's sexy. She's very fortunate.
Michele, I'll be honest -- it's something I've thought about but would never do. I think it's just a matter of priorities. If sex was one of the most important things in my life, I'd do it. But it's not. I'm happy with the quality and quantity of my sex life as it is. I'd rather spend the rest of my time thinking about my kids, my family, and writing, and I'd rather spend my money on new furniture and toys for the girls than a boob job. I would like to look like I used to, but it's not that big a deal, know what I mean?
Dawn -- great post! Any thoughts?
Melissa--You hit the nail on the head with that one. I have to/want to/need to feel sexy.
Please see my edit for more.
Ok, so I can agree with what has been said. I understand the need to want to feel sexy, but lets make sure it is for the right reason and right person. But like a discussion that I have had in the past women have the option to dress nice or sexy from a variety of different. I don't think that you have to be wearing Victoria to feel sexy. If you feel that that is what you need then you need to cut something else out of your life in order to afford such a thing. I won't say that this is silly, I just think that you can go somewhere like wal-mart and find a great bra to look sexy in. I won't hold you back from that. Make sure that you back it up as well. I get the feeling that just because you think that you feel sexy doesn't actually mean that you are going to want to have the act or perform the act of being sexual with your partner. I think this is why I am having a hard time with this post. I've seen the countless dollars spent on good bras and panties and that didn't seem to make the sparks fly. So Make sure you bite is as big or bigger than your bite.
Hubby
whoa. sexy is a state of mind. get there however you can. take a limo or a cab....boring brown bra or a lacy slutty one. if you think sexy you will be. a wink and a slap on the ass is much sexier in my opinion than a hundred dollar uncomfortable bra or thousand dollar breast bubbles to bounce around.
Thank you to Anonymous for your comment on "breast bubbles". I laughed out loud. Thanks!
great site! i have AA pancake boobs and have felt ugly since grade-school teasing...although my bf enjoys me for who i am, i still terribly hard on myself and don't feel sexy...agreed, it's a state of mind, but what wouldn't i give for a nice pair of coconuts! ;) or small water balloons for that matter. well, some days are better than others...anyway, reading your posts are awesome, so thanks!
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